Comments on: Would you be willing to share your story on Embryo Adoption or Donation? http://www.placingparents.org/would-you-be-willing-to-share-your-story-on-this-blog A Place For Parents To Get Support Tue, 01 May 2012 20:55:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: April http://www.placingparents.org/would-you-be-willing-to-share-your-story-on-this-blog#comment-120 April Fri, 27 Aug 2010 02:59:23 +0000 http://www.placingparents.org/?p=76#comment-120 My husband and I donated 14 embryos to a couple with an open agreement through Miracles Waiting. They now have a 5 month old baby. I would love to talk to other genetic parents who would like to share their journey. Feel free to send me an email to: b1ostrander@yahoo.com My husband and I donated 14 embryos to a couple with an open agreement through Miracles Waiting. They now have a 5 month old baby. I would love to talk to other genetic parents who would like to share their journey. Feel free to send me an email to: b1ostrander@yahoo.com

]]> By: Merlot http://www.placingparents.org/would-you-be-willing-to-share-your-story-on-this-blog#comment-119 Merlot Fri, 11 Jun 2010 00:57:55 +0000 http://www.placingparents.org/?p=76#comment-119 My husband and I learned about our infertilit issues early into our marriage. I have MS so we decided adoption was the best course of action for us. Unfortunately we were chosen by a birth mother who was a scammer and I ended up testifying in grand jugy trial against her. She was sentenced to jail for 7 years. On the drive home my husband and I decided to try fertility treatments because there we no reason why I couldn't get pregnant. Plenty of people with multiple sclerosis get pregnant. We did a number of unsucessful inseminations and I wanted to return to adoption. My husband wanted to see things through so we decided to try IVF. Unfortunately I had ovarian hyperstimulation. Eventually I did end up doing a FET that was negative. Unfortunately the doctor never told me to wean off the progesterone and I ended up having an MS relapse (my first one in 9 years). After that my husband agreed to domestic adoption and we adopted a beautiful wonderful baby girl, but we still had 9 embryos. I cannot carry the embryos and my only choice was to use a gestational carrier. We talked about the situation and decided that if we wanted a sibling we would rather adopt so they would be "equal" and neither one would be a genetic child. Then I had a friend who lived in another country and was having difficulty adopting there so I asked her if she would be intersted in the embryos. She was and we are in the process of getting all the logistics together. I believe the embryos are going to be shipped to the clinic she is going to use. My clinic didn't do donor embryos. We are in the process of getting all the paperwork ironed out. My husband and I learned about our infertilit issues early into our marriage. I have MS so we decided adoption was the best course of action for us. Unfortunately we were chosen by a birth mother who was a scammer and I ended up testifying in grand jugy trial against her. She was sentenced to jail for 7 years. On the drive home my husband and I decided to try fertility treatments because there we no reason why I couldn't get pregnant. Plenty of people with multiple sclerosis get pregnant. We did a number of unsucessful inseminations and I wanted to return to adoption. My husband wanted to see things through so we decided to try IVF. Unfortunately I had ovarian hyperstimulation. Eventually I did end up doing a FET that was negative. Unfortunately the doctor never told me to wean off the progesterone and I ended up having an MS relapse (my first one in 9 years). After that my husband agreed to domestic adoption and we adopted a beautiful wonderful baby girl, but we still had 9 embryos. I cannot carry the embryos and my only choice was to use a gestational carrier. We talked about the situation and decided that if we wanted a sibling we would rather adopt so they would be "equal" and neither one would be a genetic child. Then I had a friend who lived in another country and was having difficulty adopting there so I asked her if she would be intersted in the embryos. She was and we are in the process of getting all the logistics together. I believe the embryos are going to be shipped to the clinic she is going to use. My clinic didn't do donor embryos. We are in the process of getting all the paperwork ironed out.

]]> By: Christina http://www.placingparents.org/would-you-be-willing-to-share-your-story-on-this-blog#comment-118 Christina Thu, 27 May 2010 21:11:49 +0000 http://www.placingparents.org/?p=76#comment-118 Sheila, I am an adoptive parent and I am interested in sharing my story. My blog has most everything on there. There is a section to the side under "Pages" with most of the history. I am forever grateful for the gift the donor family gave us. I know it couldn't have been an easy decision for them, but I am so glad that it is the decision they made. Although I don't have direct contact with our donor family, your blog as given me some insight as to what they must be going through. Thanks, Sheila, I am an adoptive parent and I am interested in sharing my story. My blog has most everything on there. There is a section to the side under "Pages" with most of the history.

I am forever grateful for the gift the donor family gave us. I know it couldn't have been an easy decision for them, but I am so glad that it is the decision they made. Although I don't have direct contact with our donor family, your blog as given me some insight as to what they must be going through.

Thanks,

]]> By: Michele http://www.placingparents.org/would-you-be-willing-to-share-your-story-on-this-blog#comment-117 Michele Fri, 21 May 2010 14:23:40 +0000 http://www.placingparents.org/?p=76#comment-117 My husband and I have been married since October 2006. Almost immediately we decided to try to have children. This was our first marriage for both of us and neither of us had children. At the ages of 36 (me) and 42 (him) we didn't want to wait. I had been very faithfully on the BCP since 1989. Dr. after dr. told me there was no harm in being on the pill for any amount of time... now I wonder. After six months of trying, I took Clomid for 3 months. One of the worst experiences I've had with a drug. Then we had my husband tested. Low sperm count... low enough that the urologist told us that IVF was our only option. I felt like we'd been socked in the gut. I always thought of IVF as the last option... the most difficult. Wasn't there something else in between? When we got over the shock, we dove in head first. Our clinic had a 60% success rate with women in my age group! Fantastic... unless you're in the 40% group. That's where we fell... four times. After four unsuccessful IVF's (each a fresh cycle) we found out that our clinic had an embryo donation program. We thought long and hard about this... was this right for us? We also at the same time went though our state's adoption training program. Fairly quickly we decided that state adoption wasn't for us. I could not accept that as our option for what I pictured our family would be. I feel selfish admitting that - but I'm being honest here. I wanted a to be pregnant, feel a baby growing inside me and enjoy that experience. We went ahead and put our name on the list to receive embryos - and waited just about a year. They called me 2 days before my birthday... and my heart raced as I heard the words. "Your names are next on our list. When would you like to come in to select embryos?" It was like the best day ever! I immediately thought about the families who had given their embryos to this program. People like us who knew the pain of infertility. Truly unselfish people with a deep love for their their unborn children. We quickly settled on a set of 8 embryos. We smiled as we both pointed to the profile together. So many similarities with ourselves - we couldn't believe how lucky we were! Just 6 short weeks later, we transferred two of the embryos. November 30, 2009, I received a call from my husband. He had called the patient info line where they leave your test results...he tearfully told me a number ...212 - We're pregnant! I had to ask him again... he said - "You're going to be a mommy!" I have to tell you that there are days still that I cannot believe it's happening. I am almost 29 weeks pregnant with a little boy. We talk often about what we will tell our son about the two people who created him - we like to think they made him especially for us. Though our program is anonymous, they do give you a lot of info about the couple, with medical information in detail. If there's ever an opportunity for us to meet this couple, we will take it. It does make me sad sometimes to know though that we and he may never be able to meet them. We want to thank them from the bottom of our hearts. I don't know how to convey the gratitude that we feel for this couple - their loving act has changed our lives forever. My husband and I have been married since October 2006. Almost immediately we decided to try to have children. This was our first marriage for both of us and neither of us had children. At the ages of 36 (me) and 42 (him) we didn't want to wait. I had been very faithfully on the BCP since 1989. Dr. after dr. told me there was no harm in being on the pill for any amount of time... now I wonder.

After six months of trying, I took Clomid for 3 months. One of the worst experiences I've had with a drug. Then we had my husband tested. Low sperm count... low enough that the urologist told us that IVF was our only option. I felt like we'd been socked in the gut. I always thought of IVF as the last option... the most difficult. Wasn't there something else in between?

When we got over the shock, we dove in head first. Our clinic had a 60% success rate with women in my age group! Fantastic... unless you're in the 40% group. That's where we fell... four times.

After four unsuccessful IVF's (each a fresh cycle) we found out that our clinic had an embryo donation program. We thought long and hard about this... was this right for us? We also at the same time went though our state's adoption training program. Fairly quickly we decided that state adoption wasn't for us. I could not accept that as our option for what I pictured our family would be. I feel selfish admitting that - but I'm being honest here. I wanted a to be pregnant, feel a baby growing inside me and enjoy that experience.

We went ahead and put our name on the list to receive embryos - and waited just about a year. They called me 2 days before my birthday... and my heart raced as I heard the words. "Your names are next on our list. When would you like to come in to select embryos?" It was like the best day ever! I immediately thought about the families who had given their embryos to this program. People like us who knew the pain of infertility. Truly unselfish people with a deep love for their their unborn children.

We quickly settled on a set of 8 embryos. We smiled as we both pointed to the profile together. So many similarities with ourselves - we couldn't believe how lucky we were!

Just 6 short weeks later, we transferred two of the embryos.

November 30, 2009, I received a call from my husband. He had called the patient info line where they leave your test results...he tearfully told me a number ...212 - We're pregnant! I had to ask him again... he said - "You're going to be a mommy!"

I have to tell you that there are days still that I cannot believe it's happening. I am almost 29 weeks pregnant with a little boy. We talk often about what we will tell our son about the two people who created him - we like to think they made him especially for us. Though our program is anonymous, they do give you a lot of info about the couple, with medical information in detail. If there's ever an opportunity for us to meet this couple, we will take it. It does make me sad sometimes to know though that we and he may never be able to meet them. We want to thank them from the bottom of our hearts. I don't know how to convey the gratitude that we feel for this couple - their loving act has changed our lives forever.

]]> By: 2 Jens http://www.placingparents.org/would-you-be-willing-to-share-your-story-on-this-blog#comment-116 2 Jens Sat, 24 Apr 2010 00:43:58 +0000 http://www.placingparents.org/?p=76#comment-116 Hi, Our blog: http://3babes2jens1cause-embryoadoption.blogspot.com/ was created by 2 Jens whom have been blessed through the miracle of embryo adoption with 3 babes. We have lots of information on our blog about EA and a blog list of 15+ families that are in some process of EA. We are here to help and support any family who is interested in EA. Blessings!!! 2 Jens Hi,

Our blog: http://3babes2jens1cause-embryoadoption.blogspot.com/ was created by 2 Jens whom have been blessed through the miracle of embryo adoption with 3 babes. We have lots of information on our blog about EA and a blog list of 15+ families that are in some process of EA. We are here to help and support any family who is interested in EA.

Blessings!!!
2 Jens

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